It can be difficult to stay connected to your teen as they grow and become more independent. The relationship we as parents once had is different especially as they grow from being a child to a teen and that can take some getting used to! I know this from experience – it took me a while to realise that my kids still needed me but in a different way.
For me, it was and continues to be extremely important to stay connected and communication on a regular basis with my teenager. Below are 4 ways I’m attempting to stay connected to my boys. I hope these tips help you stay connected too.
Ask questions AND listen
There are times when my teen just doesn’t want to communicate but it’s important that I show him how much I’m interested in what he does. I often ask how his day at school has been and I also ensure I pay close attention to his answer. I often give him my undivided attention. It’s counter productive if you ask a question and don’t listen or sit on your phone while your teen is talking.
Watch movies or a TV programme together
We do this as a family – we watch the Walking Dead and when that’s on a break we watch a movie. I feel it is extremely important to spend time together and watching a TV programme or movie and discussing it afterwards is an excellent way of doing this. It also gives my a way of forgetting about the stress of homework or exams that may be coming up!
Doing Chores together
There are chores I hate to do, and chores I know both my kids hate to do. I try and do some of these together. For example my tween and I mowed the lawn the other day together. It was a great way to bond and it’s a great lesson to show how to maintain a home!
Give them a Hug everyday & remind them you love them
It can be difficult to get your teen to hug you but I highly recommend it! It’s important for us as a family to hug each other every day and to express how much we love each other. This is a great way of bolstering your teens self-esteem and a hug also helps you relieve stress!
Are you finding it difficult to communicate with your teen? I’d love to hear your views.