I know my son is no longer a child but it’s difficult sometimes to catch up as a parent when they enter the teenager phase. That is true of both my teenager and my tween!
Hindsight is a wonderful thing! Below are some of the mistakes I’ve made.
Reading too much
Since my children were born I’ve read many, many parenting books. To the point I thought there was something wrong with me! Sometimes it is best to go with your instincts then you can follow this up with having a look on the internet. You can do this to arm yourself with more information – but don’t overdo it!
Expecting the worst
You hear so much and read so much about how difficult teenagers can be. I started off expecting the worst until I realised that I would be a complete and utter nervous wreck if I continued on this path. So now, I expect the best and if that doesn’t happen then we deal with it as a family.
Being anxious over small stuff
I would often be concerned about my son’s choice of hair cut or what he wore until I realised that I had to let him make his own decisions. In fact, that’s why I decided to let him dye his own hair.
Forgetting about the big stuff
I recently discovered my tween has seen porn, it was a reminder to me to continue to focus on the bigger picture of guiding and protecting my sons as they go through what is a difficult time for them. It also reminded me to stay involved in their lives – even if they don’t want me to.
Not too much and not too little
Too much or too little of anything with a teenager is tricky. In terms of discipline, a fine line is required. I don’t want to push my teenager way so balancing discipline with guidance is key. There are times when I get it wrong but at least I will know for the next time.
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