Disciplining is difficult as a parent at the best of times. It becomes even more difficult with teenagers. Having a balance between instilling independence in your teenager to setting boundaries means as a parent we have a fine line to tread.
Below I’ve listed some ways to help you with discipline for your teenagers.
Stay calm & don’t overreact
In the heat of the moment this is the most difficult thing to do but it’s also important. If you need to give yourself time to calm down, remove yourself from the situation for as long as you need. Also, do you need to say anything at all? For example you may not agree with your teenager’s haircut or fashion so let it be. Of course talk to your partner but some things are best left alone as saying something can cause more problems.
Be clear & precise
If you have rules make sure your teenager knows about them and they are clear and fair. This means if your teenager breaks the rule they know exactly what the consequences are. I would also suggest you make the ground rules together and talk about what is fair and unfair consequences.
Listen first, act second
Don’t go rushing in to a judgement or a punishment without listening to what your teenager has to say. They may have a valid reason for something but you won’t know until you listen. Hear what your teenager has to say and then take time to respond in a calm manner.
Be fair with your punishment and let the punishment fit the crime. Of course it will depend on the seriousness of what they have done but again have in your mind what kind of punishments would be suitable for different situations.
I find this is tough, not just for me but for most parents. Believe in the ground rules you have set and always follow through. If you don’t then your teenager will start to take advantage. Consistency is key to this. Ask for your partner’s help with this.
Don’t forget to praise your teenager
If your teenager has done something good or has consistently kept within the rules, praise them. This will help your teenager’s self esteem.
I hope these tips will help you with disciplining your teenager. Remember teenagers will want to do different things from what we want them to. They will also want to find their own way in the world and will rebel against you. It’s a normal part of growing up. Before you do discipline your teenager, remember to ask yourself if the situation warrants it.
Good luck, let me know how you get on.
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