I absolutely adore and love my boys. There are days though where it is challenging. I often forget how difficult it is being a teenager with all the stresses and strains of growing up. When I look at my boys I still see them as children. I feel for them and the struggles they face as they try and find their place in the world.
Below I’ve listed some things that I believe every teenager needs. I’m doing my best to provide these to my two boys. I would love to know what you think.
My Teenager needs privacy
I can remember at that age I wanted to spend most of my time in my bedroom with the door closed. That seems to be the same for all teenagers. As a parent I’m trying my best to give my teenagers their privacy. At that age they often need a lot of space so I’m not going to take it personally at all!
My teenager needs love
While the hugging at the school gates is no longer welcome, I try my best to give my boys a hug or two every day. I also find it important to tell them how much I love them and think they are great too! Teenagers still need support and guidance, I try my best to offer when it’s asked for.
My teenager needs to be listened to
There are times when he needs time to himself. But there are time when he wants to talk. I try to be there when he needs to talk. My job is to listen and ask questions and take an interested in what is going on in his life.
My teenager still needs boundaries
While I respect my teenagers need for privacy and I completely understand the changes in his body, he still needs boundaries. For example, staying safe online is extremely important. We have certain boundaries but we also explain why we have them in place.
My teenager wants/needs to be different
My son recently asked me to help him dye his hair. My first reaction was to say no! But that was more to do with my issues than his. So I decided to say yes, in fact I helped him! I guess this reaction to doing things different is him trying to see where he fits in this big world. I am doing my best to be supportive of that.
PIN THIS POST